
My friend Marco has studied Psychology and is a very spiritual soul. Over the years he has passed on a few tips along the way. I always write down everything he shares with us as I find his knowledge so valuable. I thought it was important to share this knowledge so I will be posting some of his wisdom from time to time. In January 2004 he taught my husband and I how to meditate, this skill has helped both of us tremendously. The first 6 weeks I meditated every night for about 10 - 15 minutes and, to be honest, I thought I would never be able to do it and then all of a sudden...bliss I was able to quiet my mind.
1. Make sure you are in a comfortable position and your back is straight.
2. Take three deep breaths. Breathing in through your nose and out through your mouth.
3. Look straight ahead and without moving your head look up with your eyes to what some people call the third eye (or you can pick a spot on the ceiling to look at). By doing this you activate the glad situated in the middle of your forehead that is full of serotonin (the feel good drug your body naturally manufactures). Hence the fact it is hard to think negatively while looking up.
4. Concentrate on your breathing, although not too many deep breaths while meditating or you'll pass out.
5. At the same time as you're looking up try to stay in peripheral vision. When you are first training yourself to do this it is helpful to hold both your hands out to your sides about 20 -30cm away from your head and slightly in front of your head (about where you would hold up your hand to wave at someone). Concentrate on being able to see your hands out the corners of your eyes as well as looking up at the same time, this will keep you in peripheral vision when you're not used to doing it.
If you have made sense of what I have written then you are now meditating and this is where it gets interesting, as what I like to call "the Monkeys" in your brain start to try to take over. The brain doesn't like to be told what to do and by meditating you are disciplining your brain. So your brain will try to distract you by any means possible and suddenly your thinking about that bill you have to pay or what you have to do tomorrow. When those thoughts enter your brain thank your conscious mind for this message and then give permission to your conscious mind to send it away with love. Avoid letting your brain control you. Concentrate on relaxing; if prayer is your thing, this is a good time to pray as prayer is a form of meditation.
With discipline and regular practice you will begin to reap the rewards for being able to quiet your mind. My husband and I now meditate for about 1/2 and hour to an hour every night and it feels so good sometimes it's hard to come back to reality.
At the beginning, while you are learning, I would suggest keeping your eyes open as you are trying to learn to look up and stay in peripheral at the same time, which is easier to learn with your eyes open. Eventually when you have learnt to do this you will be able to do this with your eyes closed. Yes, eventually you will be able to stay in peripheral with your eyes closed!
Good luck, stick with it, you will eventually be able to do it and most importantly make sure you stay in peripheral vision - this is the key.













